Make up or Break up?

On a day-to-day basis, 98% of the couples all over the world married or not, are fighting over something.. usually over little things like not doing this or doing that, or worse, the third party. But how do these couples cope up with this kind of situation?

Based on my experience, me and my recent ex have been fighting a lot everyday, and we've been making up at the end of every fight we have because we couldn't resist each other. This has been our routine. We have been fighting over me getting jealous at somebody, not going out with "him" and shit because I was not allowed to go out quite often. "He" tells me that "he" understands my parents not allowing me to go somewhere but it turns out that he doesn't. I can say that I am very "matampuhin." The typical stuff like when he doesn't reply, when he doesn't say I love you back, etc.. you know what I mean.

So here's the thing, as I said a while ago, many couples fight. So what happened? Well, he broke up with me. He said he was tired... He was tired of everything.. all of the fighting, blah blah. I admitted that at times, I wasn't swallowing my pride at all, but there was a reason why I was like that. It's because I didn't want him to do the same thing over and over again. In other words, I don't want him to get used to me forgiving him every time he does something that I don't like. I felt like he was taking advantage.. he knows very well that I can't resist him. I am very well aware that I have not done everything for him. But I really loved him.. Big time.

Nothing's wrong with holding up your head and keeping your pride, but If you still want to keep that relationship going strong, well you have to step down a little bit and be the one to apologize or be the one to fix things first between you and your partner. Because you're never gonna know when your partner will get tired and just break up with you. You'll be surprised.  But if you are tired, and unhappy, then STOP. Because you don't have to force yourself to a person whom you have fallen out of love to..  If you do that, You'll be unhappy and you're going to hurt that person's feelings once he/she knew that you only wanted some company, and that you wanted to be in a relationship, but you don't love him/her.

S-I-N-G-L-E

People these days think that it is important for people to have that "SOMEONE" and to be committed.

But I say, "NO" you don't need that.

Tingin nila, porket SINGLE ka, Loner ka na and shit. Pero hindi naman diba?

Look at your other friends na single. Diba  masaya naman sila? They can be happy even though they don't  have any company.

It's true na nakakamiss na may nagsasabi sayo ng, "Hi baby, Good Morning, I love you" etc etc, you know, the sweet stuff.. pero at the end, marerealize mo, you can get that naman from other people.. hindi nga lang galing sa taong committed ka.

If you think na hindi mo kayang maging masaya without someone's company, well you're completely wrong. Hindi lahat ng tao masaya dahil lang may love life. You don't need to have a relationship just to be happy.. Kayang-kaya mo pasayahin sarili mo, and you know just how to. There are many sources of Happiness, you have your family, friends, money, etc.

Plus, kung galing ka sa break-up, don't be afraid to open your door para naman may bagong dumating :)

Sabi nga nila, "Pag may umalis, may dadating na MAS OKAY :)" Believe me, Totoo yun!! :) Bitter? Okay lang yaaaaaan, there's no problem naman eh. Wag ka paapekto sa iba. Show them that you're strong enough even though you don't have your so-called partner. Somebody's destined to all of us, always keep that in mind. Dadating yan.. Hindi yan hinahanap. Malay mo, mahanap mo, Joker pala. Wag na yuun. Wait for the right one. Plus, wag ka maffall agad. Play the game well, and you're gonna win it :)

Haven't you had enough?

Nakipagbreak ka na, hinahabol mo pa. Hindi ba dapat panindigan mo na ayaw mo na talaga?

You're regretting on the decision you made. Sinasabi mo sa sarili mo, "Shet dapat di nalang ako nakipagbreak eh.." Eh bat ka nga ba nakipagbreak? Tandaan mo lagi yung reason why you broke up with him. 

Don't you feel stupid kasi hinahabol mo pa eh alam mo namang wala na talaga? Konting untog naman girl.

TIGILAN MO NA. Alam mo na atang may iba na sha, pinagpipilitan mo pa sarili mo.

Wag ganon, MASASAKTAN KA LANG. TRUST ME.

Kung may feelings pa naman sayo yun, maffeel mo naman eh, kaso dapat di ka nagaassume kasi nga, inuulit ko, MASASAKTAN KA LANG. 

How many times have you cried over him? Madami na, diba? Alam ko yon.

Pero iniiyakan ka ba niya? Hindi naman diba? Yun ang ilagay mo sa isipan mo, wag yung.. "AY MAHAL NIYA PA KO, PWEDE PA TO PWEDE PA.."

You can think positive pero not to the point na sa sobrang positive mo magisip, iisipin mo na mahal ka pa.

Always have second thoughts, never stick to one thought.

Sabi nga nila, laging may second option.. Eh kung meron shang iba, tas nilalandi ka pa, f mo di ka option non? YOU'RE BETTER THAN THAT. YOU CAN NEVER BE JUST AN OPTION, GIRL. HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU.

Dadating si Mr. Right, at yang hinahabol mo, hindi yan yon. Pakawalan mo na, LET GO, HE'S NOT WORTH IT.

BE HAPPY. DON'T HOLD ON, STOP. DON'T LET YOURSELF GET HURT.

The Friend Zone.. Oopps!!

It was the summer of 2009 when I fell in love with this guy in an instant, He was my neighbor, I was too young, I didn't know how I should feel, but what I know is that I was really in love with him.

I was with him at the church org before and there we became close. He knew that I had feelings for him, and he was taking advantage of it. I kinda felt stupid at that time but I'm like, "What the hell?! Who cares? I'm in love with this guy!"  Months passed, blah blah.. stupidity keeps on going and then I knew he was in to another girl from our church org who was a really close friend of mine. And then I had the feeling that I have to stop, just because I was doing doing everything for this guy to like me, and I knew that It was impossible for him to feel the same way that I did, AND HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND.


Suddenly, everything changed in the year 2011. This person came in to my life, and changed almost everything. I was in love with this person, and not with him anymore, probably because I realized that I needed someone to appreciate me, and the things I do. 


When this so called childhood sweetheart slash best guy friend slash the guy i fell in love with before knew that I had this "person," He started to show his feelings for me, and he was opening up to me that he is in love with me and all, but it didn't matter to me anymore, because I had this "person" and this "person" was my everything and no one else could ever take this person's place.

When me and that person broke up, he was there for me. ALWAYS.
He asked me if he can court me, and all I would say to him was.. "Okay na tayong ganto, magbestfriends, ayokong mawala sa atin yun"


I do have a point, right? Plus, I''m not in love with him anymore.
I just want us to stay as friends, and this is where we would last :)

Moving On..

Every relationship comes to an end. We all know that. Some say there is a thing such as "FOREVER" but I say, there is no such thing like it. After a relationship has ended, we all go through a process called MOVING ON. 

Moving on may be easy for some people, but it is usually hard for most people. Especially to those who had a really deep relationship with their "ex."  Trust me, I have been through and have been going through it for the past five months. It doesn't matter who it is, but this article is about you to understand what is moving on and what I think moving on is all about.

I've been hearing all these people telling me, "Nako, wag ka na dyan, Magmove-on ka na. Di sha worth it" -- These words are so easy to say, but so hard to do. I've been trying to move on, I've been telling myself, "ANG DAMING IBA DIYAN.." Which is true. I've been surrounded by a lot of people after our break up, but I still find myself going back to that person.

Yung feeling na, Isang text or tawag lang niya, andyan ka na agad.. Sobrang hindi ka makatiis. TRUE?  Yes.

There were Good and Bad memories that were made and apparently, You can't forget all of these in an istant. Di naman yan instant noodles na naluluto agad agad eh, in other words, Ang pagmove on, di naman yan instantly nagagawa, it goes through a step by step procedure.

I can't exactly tell you how to move on  kasi kahit ako, I haven't fully moved on eh. But here's  how:

1. STOP ALL FORMS OF COMMUNICATION. 

Hindi naman sa pagiging bitter, pero it's one way para makalimot. Don't text or call him/her, I-delete mo number niya sa contacts mo, or much better, Mag-iba ka ng number. Hide mo muna posts niya sa FB, Unfollow mo sa twitter.. Isang click lang naman yan eh.

2. STOP REMINISCING. It's so hard to stop reminiscing. Bakit? Kasi you're gonna find yourself some time of the day, doing something you used to do with your ex. Pag may narinig ka lang na kanta niyo dati, feeling mo, SIGN yon na wag ka magmove on.. Tas pag nagaayos  ka ng stuff mo, makita mo lang love letter niya tsaka picture niyo, Iiyak ka na agad. PSHH. Sa una lang yan. Gusto mo  ba yon? Yung siya, okay  na okay  na, samantalang ikaw, nandyan sa sulok,  nagmumukmok at umaaasa? Wag ganon mhen. Itigil mo na yan.

3. SIMPLY FORGET. Kalimutan mo na. Yun na yon eh wag nang ibalik pa.

If you miss him/her, It's normal. Minahal mo eh, minahal ka din. Kaso kapag Ikaw nalang ang nagmamahal, it's time to stop na. Eventually, You're gonna get tired of how you feel everyday, still waiting. Then you're gonna tell yourself, "FINALLY, I'VE MOVED ON" :)